Your happiness is all you’ve got. Luckily, happiness gets results!
Two things are guaranteed in life, 1.) you will die, and 2.) people will do things you don’t expect.
If your happiness depends on whether people do what you expect, you are…well..how can I say this in a ladylike way…um…destined for misery, or, just plain screwed.
People do what they do. Any time or energy you invest in analyzing what they should do, when they should do it, and how they should do it, or expecting them to do things like you want will have a low return rate. In other words you’re wasting your time.
If you have kids, employees, clients, a partner, you know what I’m talking about. How many times have you said to your kids, “Please put your shoes and socks on we are leaving in 5 minutes” …then you go to do something else and when you come back in 5 minutes, there are barefoot children sitting there?
It’s easy to let something like that ruin your day and your mood. But it’s even ease-ier to NOT let it ruin your day and your mood.
My mentor Martin Sage taught me at the beginning of my training (and he reminds me over and over again every time I forget) your mantra has to be “I am the party”. If there is a party happening inside of me, it doesn’t matter if the party I’m actually at is boring or the people are rude, I am still having fun! I am the party. I am happy.
You always can choose happiness or misery.
When my vitality and happiness is high and I am humming with aliveness and vitality, I am much better able to set ground rules and deliver natural consequences to kids (or employees, clients, partners, etc.). I can do it with with warmth and compassion rather than irritability. Happiness gets better results. Try it!
Book: Katie Byron, “Loving What Is”
Seminar: “How to Talk to Men” for women on how to cultivate pleasure and self-esteem within yourself, AND how to give and receive deep respect when communicating.