I am grateful for three things: my boys, projects and team.
In January of this year, my twin 7-year-old boys made a simple request, “We want you to listen to us!”
Not realizing that I hadn’t been listening, I agreed. (what kind of parent would I be if I didn’t??)
Since then, there have been more requests…and even feedback from them! In an earlier blog post, I wrote about how my boys got me to join the PTA and how it has revealed a deeper calling for me…in the non-profit arena.
Another request was, “You should quit drinking diet coke, mommy! If we’re not allowed to drink soda because it’s bad for us, then it must be bad for you, too… so you shouldn’t do what’s bad for you!” Of course I had to agree to (and obey) that request as well.
Over the months I realized following their suggestions and listening to their feedback was leading to life changes that had a strange effect on me…I was becoming happier. Much, much happier!
Now we are almost to the end of the year, I have been relationship-free for almost a year (this, due to the request, “no boyfriends for a while, mommy”). My life is fuller and richer with friendships, team, collaboration, projects and of course a deeper and a more fun connection with my boys than ever existed before. I am grateful to my boys for that…grateful that they got me to listen and they got me to play. Last night instead of homework (it is a holiday week, mind you!) we played games like memory, go fish and dominoes..it was a blast!
I’m grateful for projects: Martin Sage says, “People have a need that goes even deeper than earning money, survival or even being loved, it is the desire to be truly in service to our fellow human beings.”
With projects in my coaching and training business, as well as in my new volunteer project, I have found a way to be in service to the community. In fact, it has even given me a way to create a community where one did not previously exist.
Keith Ferrazzi, (author of “Never Eat Alone”) recently cited a study out of Arizona State University that links volunteering to improved physical and emotional health. My volunteer project, creating the Fittest Family Contest at my sons’ elementary school, has opened doors I never even knew existed. It has also contributed to the fact that since its’ inception three months ago, I am happier than I have ever been.
I’m grateful for having a team, both in my business and in the ‘side project’. “Lions live and hunt in family groups called prides. By working together, pride members can capture prey much larger than one lion could on its own…”
Focusing on collaboration and community rather than on one relationship has enabled me to forge teams, professional collaborations and a tribe. Wonderful people have stepped up to play with me…assisting with mutually beneficial projects, tasks and inspiration.
Besides my boys, I don’t have immediate family in Texas. For this reason, Thanksgiving could be a lonely holiday. This year, however, it promises to be full and rich. We’ve accepted two invitations from people on my Dana’s My Coach sales team to participate in their family celebrations. We are honored and delighted to accept their invitations…and grateful to have a team!
On Thanksgiving morning, we will also participate in the Turkey Trot (link below) marathon. Still another activity initiated by the boys. Taking action on their desire to run helped me reconnect with my own love of running which has lay dormant since college!
Since Thanksgiving is about gratitude this is my gratitude story. Sadly, I heard recently from a client who works at one of the largest gaming companies in the US. She says, “Thanksgiving is our most lucrative day of the year…we don’t have a slight increase in game usage, we have a HUGE increase.”
In other words, what is meant to be a time to celebrate and enjoy family and connections is actually a time where many people are choosing to isolate and disconnect from human connection.
If you want to bring your attention to what you are thankful for, please write your gratitude story… and share it! I’d love to hear it!!
You can also take action on any of the recommended links below on ways to stay healthy and connected for the holidays:
Healthy Holiday Recipes from local Kitchen Allegre Chef Katy
Annual Turkey trot: info & registration
Family game: Spoons